Dr. Abdul Kalam’s Speech in Hyderabad

Why is the media here so negative?
Why are we in India so embarrassed to recognize our own strengths, our achievements? We are such a great nation. We have so many amazing success stories but we refuse acknowledge them—  Why?

We are the first in milk production.
We are number one in Remote sensing satellites.
We are the second largest producer of wheat.
We are the second largest producer of rice.
Look at Dr. Sudarshan , he has transferred the tribal village into a self-sustaining, self-driving unit.

 There are millions of such achievements but our media is only obsessed in the bad news and failures and disasters.

 I was in Tel Aviv once and I was reading the Israeli newspaper. It was the day after a lot of attacks and bombardments and deaths had taken place. The Hamas had struck. But the front page of the newspaper had the picture of a  Jewish gentleman who in five years had transformed his desert into an orchid and a granary. It was this inspiring picture that everyone woke up to. The gory details of killings, bombardments, deaths, were inside in the newspaper, buried among other news.

In India we only read about death, sickness, terrorism, crime.

 Why are we so NEGATIVE?

 Another question: Why are we, as a nation so obsessed with foreign things? We want foreign T. Vs, we want foreign shirts. We want foreign technology.

Why this obsession with everything imported. Do we not realize that self-respect comes with self-reliance? I was in Hyderabad giving this lecture,when a 14 year old girl asked me for my autograph. I asked her what her goal in life is. She replied: I want to live in a developed India . For her, you and I will have to build this developed India . You must proclaim. India is not an under-developed nation; it is a highly developed nation.

 Do you have 10 minutes? Allow me to come back with a vengeance.

Got 10 minutes for your country? If yes, then read; otherwise, choice is yours.
YOU say that our government is inefficient.
YOU say that our laws are too old.
YOU say that the municipality does not pick up the garbage.
YOU say that the phones don’t work, the railways are a joke,
The airline is the worst in the world, mails never reach their destination.
YOU say that our country has been fed to the dogs and is the absolute pits.

YOU say, say and say. What do YOU do about it?

Take a person on his way to Singapore . Give him a name – YOURS. Give him aface – YOURS. YOU walk out of the airport and you are at your International best. In Singapore you don’t throw cigarette butts on the roads or eat in the stores. YOU are as proud of their Underground links as they are. You pay $5 (approx. Rs. 60) to drive through Orchard Road (equivalent of Mahim Causeway or Pedder Road ) between 5 PM and 8 PM. YOU come back to the parking lot to punch your parking ticket if you have over stayed in a restaurant or a shopping mall irrespective of your status identity… In Singapore you don’t say anything, DO YOU?

 YOU wouldn’t dare to eat in public during Ramadan, in Dubai .

YOU would not dare to go out without your head covered in Jeddah .

YOU would not dare to buy an employee of the telephone exchange in London at 10 pounds ( Rs.650) a month to, ‘see to it that my STD and ISD calls are billed to someone else.’

YOU would not dare to speed beyond 55 mph (88 km/h) in Washington and then tell the traffic cop,’Jaanta hai main kaun hoon (Do you know who I am?). I am so and so’s son. Take your two bucks and get lost.’

YOU wouldn’t chuck an empty coconut shell anywhere other than the garbage pail on the beaches in Australia and New
Zealand .

Why don’t YOU spit Paan on the streets of Tokyo ? Why don’t YOU use examination jockeys or buy fake certificates in Boston ??? We are still  talking of the same YOU.

YOU who can respect and conform to a foreign system in other countries but cannot in your own. You who will throw papers and cigarettes on the road the moment you touch Indian ground. If you can be an involved and appreciative citizen in an alien country, why cannot you be the same here in India ?

Once in an interview, the famous Ex-municipal commissioner of Bombay , Mr. Tinaikar , had a point to make. ‘Rich people’s dogs are walked on the streets to leave their affluent droppings all over the place,’ he said. ‘And then the same people turn around to criticize and blame the authorities for inefficiency and dirty pavements. What do they expect the
officers to do? Go down with a broom every time their dog feels the pressure in his bowels? In America every dog owner has to clean up after his pet has done the job. Same in Japan . Will the Indian citizen do that here?’ He’s right. We go to the polls to choose a government and after that forfeit all responsibility.

 We sit back wanting to be pampered and expect the government to do everything for us whilst our contribution is totally negative. We expect the government to clean up but we are not going to stop chucking garbage all over the place nor are we going to stop to pick a up a stray piece of paper and throw it in the bin.

We expect the railways to provide clean bathrooms but we are not going to learn the proper use of bathrooms.

We want Indian Airlines and Air India to provide the best of food and toiletries but we are not going to stop pilfering at the least opportunity.

This applies even to the staff who is known not to pass on the service to the public. When it comes to burning social issues like those related towomen, dowry, girl child! and others, we make loud drawing room protestations and continue to do the reverse at home. Our excuse?

‘It’s the whole system which has to change, how will it matter if I alone forego my sons’ rights to a dowry.’ So who’s going to change the system? What does a system consist of ? Very conveniently for us it consists of our neighbours, other households, other cities, other communities and the government. But definitely not me and YOU.

When it comes to us actually making a positive contribution to the system we lock ourselves along with our families into a safe cocoon and look into the distance at countries far away and wait for a Mr.Clean to come along & work miracles for us with a majestic sweep of his hand or we leave the country and run away. Like lazy cowards hounded by our fears we run to America to bask in their glory and praise their system. When New York becomes insecure we run to England . When England experiences unemployment, we take the next flight out
to the Gulf. When the Gulf is war struck, we demand to be rescued and brought home by the Indian government. Everybody is out to abuse and rape the country. Nobody thinks of feeding the system. Our conscience is mortgaged to money.

Dear Indians, The article is highly thought inductive, calls for a greatdeal of introspection and pricks one’s conscience too…. I am echoing J. F. Kennedy ‘s words to his fellow Americans to relate to Indians…..

‘ASK WHAT WE CAN DO FOR INDIA
AND DO WHAT HAS TO BE DONE TO MAKE INDIA
WHAT AMERICA AND OTHER WESTERN COUNTRIES ARE TODAY’

Lets do what India needs from us.

Thank you,

Dr. Abdul Kalaam

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HR Principal – Dale Carnegi‏

Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

1. Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.

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Six ways to make people like you
1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
2. Smile.
3. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
6. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.

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Win people to your way of thinking
1.  The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
2.  Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, “You’re wrong.”
3.  If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4.  Begin in a friendly way.
5.  Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.
6.  Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7.  Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
8.  Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
9.  Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.
10. Appeal to the nobler motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas.
12. Throw down a challenge.

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Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment
A leader’s job often includes changing your people’s attitudes and behavior. Some suggestions to accomplish this:
1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Let the other person save face.
6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.”
7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

Drinking Milk For Ur Ageing Bones

Drinking milk can work wonders for your ageing bones, says a new study.

For example, healthy men and women who supplemented their diets with a daily intake of 1,200 mg of calcium – or four glasses of milk – reduced their risk of bone fractures by 72 percent.

Researchers from University Hospital Zurich and Dartmouth Medical School divided 930 healthy men and women aged 27 to 80 into two groups for a four-year study.

One group was given a placebo, while the other took a daily calcium supplement containing 1,200 mg of calcium daily – the recommendation for adults over 51 years.

Researchers found that those receiving an additional 1,200 mg of calcium were significantly less likely to have a bone fracture of any sort during the four-year period, including everyday activity fractures (bone breaks that occurred while walking or standing).

In fact, during the four-year intervention, not a single adult receiving calcium experienced a fracture tied to everyday activities – fractures that researchers call ‘potentially preventable’ and more likely linked to bone health.

To sustain the benefits, researchers found that the adults needed to maintain their calcium intakes. After the four-year supplementation period ended, the bone benefits dissipated, underscoring the need to adopt lifelong habits, like drinking milk, to prevent bone loss.

Adult bones continue to grow in density and strength until about age 35. Poor bone health and bone fractures can have negative consequences for adults of all ages, interfering with recreational activities, ability to work or physical capacity to exercise and stay healthy.

These adult bone fractures may also be an early sign of risk for osteoporosis – a serious condition of brittle bones afflicting more than 10 million Americans.

Top 10 Sleeping Myths

Myth 1: Sleep is a time when your body and brain shut down for rest and relaxation

No evidence shows that any major organ (including the brain) or regulatory system in the body shuts down during sleep. Some physiological processes actually become more active while you sleep. For example, secretion of certain hormones is boosted, and activity of the pathways in the brain needed for learning and memory is heightened. To sleep better you must get rid of many sleep myths including this one and only accept the sleeping facts!

Myth 2: Getting just 1 hour less sleep per night than needed will not have any effect on your daytime functioning

This lack of sleep may not make you noticeably sleepy during the day. But even slightly less sleep can affect your ability to think properly and respond quickly, and it can compromise your cardiovascular health and energy balance as well as the ability to fight infections, particularly if lack of sleep continues. If you consistently do not get enough sleep, eventually a sleep debt builds up that will make you excessively tired during the day.

Myth 3: Your body adjusts quickly to different sleep schedules

Your biological clock makes you most alert during the daytime and most drowsy at night. Thus, even if you work the night shift, you will naturally feel sleepy when night time comes. Most people can reset their biological clock, but only by appropriately timed cues—and even then, by 1–2 hours per day at best. Consequently, it can take more than a week to adjust to a dramatically altered sleep/wake cycle, such as you encounter when travelling across several time zones or switching from working the day shift to the night shift.

Myth 4: People need less sleep as they get older

Older people don’t need less sleep, but they often get less sleep or find their sleep less refreshing. That’s because as people age, they spend less time in the deep, restful stages of sleep and are more easily awakened. Older people are also more likely to have insomnia or other medical conditions that disrupt their sleep.

Myth 5: Extra sleep at night can cure you of problems with excessive daytime fatigue

Not only is the quantity of sleep important but also the quality of sleep. Some people sleep 8 or 9 hours a night but don’t feel well rested when they wake up because the quality of their sleep is poor. A number of sleep disorders and other medical conditions affect the quality of sleep. Sleeping more won’t alleviate the daytime sleepiness these disorders or conditions cause. However, many of these disorders or conditions can be treated effectively with changes in behaviour or with medical therapies.

Myth 6: You can make up for lost sleep during the week by sleeping more on the weekends

Although this sleeping pattern will help relieve part of a sleep debt, it will not completely make up for the lack of sleep. This pattern also will not make up for impaired performance during the week because of not sleeping enough. Furthermore, sleeping later on the weekends can affect your biological clock so that it is much harder to go to sleep at the right time on Sunday nights and get up early on Monday mornings. To sleep better you really should get these sleep myths out of the way.

Myth 7: Naps are a waste of timeAlthough naps do not substitute for a good night’s sleep, they can be restorative and help counter some of the impaired performance that results from not getting enough sleep at night. Naps can actually help you learn how to do certain tasks quicker. But avoid taking naps later than 3 p.m., as late naps can interfere with your ability to fall asleep at night. Also, limit your naps to no longer than 1 hour because longer naps will make it harder to wake up and get back in the swing of things. If you take frequent naps during the day, you may have a sleep disorder that should be treated.

 

Myth 8: Snoring is a normal part of sleep

Snoring during sleep is common, particularly as a person gets older. Evidence is growing that snoring on a regular basis can make you sleepy during the day and more susceptible to diabetes and heart disease. In addition, some studies link frequent snoring to problem behaviour and poorer school achievement in children. Loud, frequent snoring can also be a sign of sleep apnea, a serious sleep disorder that should be treated.

Myth 9: Children who don’t get enough sleep at night will show signs of sleepiness during the day

Unlike adults, children who don’t get enough sleep at night typically become more active than normal during the day. They also show difficulty paying attention and behaving properly. Consequently, they may be misdiagnosed as having attention deficit hyperactivity.

Myth 10: The main cause of insomnia is worry

Although worry or stress can cause a short bout of insomnia, a persistent inability to fall asleep or stay asleep at night can be caused by a number of other factors. Certain medications and sleep disorders can keep you up at night. Other common causes of insomnia are depression, anxiety disorders, and asthma, arthritis, or other medical conditions with symptoms that become more troublesome at night. Some people who have chronic insomnia also appear to be more revved up than normal, so it is harder for them to fall asleep.

A Blank Wall – Inspiring Story

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room’s only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.
The men talked for hours on end.
They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation.
Every afternoon,  when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.
The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside.
The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.
As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine this picturesque scene.
One warm afternoon, the man by the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man could not hear the band, he could see it in his mind’s eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. Days, weeks and months passed.
 
One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to fine the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his deep sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.
 
As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next ot the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.
 
Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed. “It faced a blank wall”
 
The man asked the nurse what could have complled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things out side this window.
 
The nurse responded taht the man was blind and could not see the wall. She said, “Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.’
 
Epilogue(Meaning short piece of ending a literary work):
“There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situation. Shared giief is half the sorrow, but happiness when share, is doubled.”

Quick Tips to Improve Self Confidence‏

Here are some quick tips to improve your Self Confidence. If we are committed to have a healthy self confidence there are many things you can do every day to boost your self confidence, each small steps that will help you to reach your goal. The good news is that self-esteem is not fixed and can be improved, try some of the steps below to boost your confidence and self-esteem.
 
1) Identify your successes. Everyone is good at something, so discover the things at which you excel, then focus on your talents. Give yourself permission to take pride in them. Give yourself credit for your successes. Inferiority is a state of mind in which you’ve declared yourself a victim. Do not allow yourself to be victimized.
 
2) Look in the mirror and smile. Studies surrounding what’s called the “facial feedback theory” suggest that the expressions on your face can actually encourage your brain to register certain emotions. So by looking in the mirror and smiling every day, you might feel happier with yourself and more confident in the long run.
 
3) Exercise and eat healthy. Exercise raises adrenaline and makes one feel happier and healthier. It is certainly an easy and effective way to boost your self-confidence.
 
4) Turn feelings of envy or jealousy into a desire to achieve. Stop wanting what others have just because they have it; seek things simply because you want them, whether anybody else has them or not.
 
5) When you’re feeling superbly insecure, write down a list of things that are good about you. Then read the list back. You’d be surprised at what you can come up with.
 
6) Don’t be afraid to push yourself a bit – a little bit of pressure can actually show just how good you are!
 
7) You can try taking a martial arts or fitness class/course (or both). This will help build confidence and strength.
 
 Invest in some new clothing and donate some of your old clothing to send a message to yourself that you both look sharp and feel sharp.
 
9) Try to make yourself talk positively at all times. When you hear yourself saying you can’t do something, stop and say you can. Unless you try, you will never know whether you are able to or not.
 
10) Don’t get wrapped up in your mistakes and dwell on bad points; they can contrast your good points or even give you something to improve. There’s no feeling like being good at something you were really bad at.
 
11) Don’t confuse what you have with who you are. People degrade their self worth when comparing possessions.
 
12) Surround yourself with nurturing friends, not overly critical individuals who make you feel inadequate or insecure. This could do great harm and damage to your self confidence.
 
Always remember “There is hair line crack between success and failure” Be sure to push your self a bit, who knows that bit may lead you to success.

What Is Right Hair Care?

Hairs are the most important part of an individual’s personality. There would be no single women in the world who is not concerned about her hairs. Taking care of hairs and their hygiene is very important not only for beauty but also for health. Hare care involves all the steps to be taken for hygiene and health of hairs.

Hare care differs according to one’s hair type, hair needs and weather conditions. Though our entire body has hair follicles but hair care here means care for the hair on the scalp.

When you consider the hair care, it means you should take care of hair and scalp skin also. All the living hair parts such as hair follicles, root sheath, hair root and sebaceous glands are below the skin. The hair shaft or cuticle is the nonliving part above the skin.

To ensure a healthy and shining hair, you should take care of health and hygiene of scalp skin.If you do not clean scalp skin regularly, dead skin cells get accumulated. It gives rise to infection due to toxins released by skin, bacteria, virus and chemicals.

Sebum produced by sebaceous glands protects the hair from microorganisms. It keeps the hair moisturize and shining. Sebum reaches the hair shaft by travelling naturally. It can be distributed by brushing and combing.

Hair Cleaning ::  Using Shampoo
Hair cleaning is the most important aspect of hair care. Hairs are to be washed regularly to remove the things like dirt, grease, sweat. Hair should be washed by mild shampoo which should be selected according to the hair type. If you have oily hair, use shampoo designed for oily hair. For dry hair, choose shampoo for dry hair. If you use tend to use wrong shampoo, it will do more harm than any benefit.

Apart from shampoo, there are some natural products also which help keep the hair clean and healthy. The most important is scalp massage and washing the hair with clean plain water.

Conditioning
Conditioner is to hair what moisturizer is to the skin. Conditioner helps to keep the hair moist and protect from dryness. Whenever you shampoo your hair, ph level of hair and skin gets increased due to alkaline nature of shampoo. It removes the layer of natural oil from the hairs a bit. After shampooing, you can feel roughness, dryness and tangling in hair. To get rid all these problems and smooth the hair you need to use hair conditioner.

Conditioners are acidic in nature so they help to maintain the balance of ph of hair. Conditioners and acidic rinses help to get better manageability and reduce tabling of hairs. It helps to prevent any damage in the hair.

How to wash hairs properly?
You should follow proper steps to wash your hair. First step is of course choosing the right hair care product that is shampoo. Conditioning after shampoo is also part of washing of hair.

Take shampoo on your palm according to size of your hair and lather in your hands. Now apply it over thoroughly wet hairs. Do not pile up the hairs as it will create tangles and open up the cuticles unnecessarily. Just squeeze the shampoo to any length of hair which is enough for washing. If you wash hair daily, it is not necessary to apply shampoo everyday; just wash with plain cold water.

To remove dead skin cells from scalp, do not scratch it too hard with nails rather use a fine toothed comb.

After shampoo apply conditioner. Apply it over damp hair to get it absorbed completely. After that rinse it out thoroughly with clean water so that there are no traces of conditioner in hair. If conditioner remains in hair, hair will look dull and become greasy.

Drying of Hair
For drying of hair, do not rub with towel, it will open up the cuticles and hair gets tangled. Use a micro fiber towel to absorb the water quickly rather than ordinary towel. Air drying is the best way to make the hair dry.

Avoid use of excessive heat on hair. Excessive use of heat makes the hair unnecessarily dry and damages them. Do not use blow dryers, perming or straightening tool too much on hair. Avoid styling hair in tight braids or buns as they make the hair follicle weak. Eat a healthy and balanced diet to nourish the hair from inside.