Nearly everyone has experienced a relationship breakup or divorce and it can be one of the most painful periods in your life as you try to heal your broken heart. What we have discovered in our relationship coaching practice, many breakups don’t have to happen.
Here are four ideas to help you better understand why breakups happen and what you can do to prevent them in your relationship.
yourself but look inward instead of outward blaming your partner for what clearly is your issue.
Ask yourself if your fears are “true” or are you just making “stories” up in your head. If you are creating those “stories” and there’s no basis of truth to them, then change your thinking. It’s not always easy to do and it takes moment by moment monitoring of your
thoughts. If you need help and support to make the changes you want in your life, be courageous enough to get it.
2. Not Feeling Understood, Valued, Loved and Appreciated.
If you are not feeling loved, start being open to seeing and feeling love and appreciation that people are giving you that you may not be aware of in your daily life. It may be that someone allows you to go ahead of them in traffic or tells you to go ahead in a grocery line. Send some appreciation back to them and to everyone around you and watch love snowball in your life.
3. Not Making their Relationship a Priority.
We believe that sex happens long before the bedroom. It starts all day long when you have thoughts about your partner–Are these thoughts positive or negative? It continues when you come together–Are you happy to see each other and express love and appreciation or do you great each other with a laundry list of chores, things to be done or grievances?
These are just a couple of ways we make our relationship a priority. Try them in yours!
4. One or Both People are Made to Feel They are “Wrong.”
Before you jump into blaming and judging your partner, stop and take a moment to breathe. Ask yourself if making your partner wrong will drive you further apart or move you closer toward healing. Open your heart to understanding the dynamics of what’s going on between the two of you. Understand the full story before you start making someone wrong. So often we assume to know what is in someone’s heart and we really don’t. Take the time to find out!