Do you deserve the title of a MAN?

“The state of knowledge is a state in which man has freed himself from his past, which is self-consciousness. However paradoxical it may seem at first, such a state is the only one which is natural to man, really worthy of that NAME.”

                                                                                       – J Krishnamurti

“Man does not deserve the title of man so long as the physical condition does not assume the shape of moral qualities, for the natural desires are common to man and the lower animals and there is nothing to mark the distinction between him and them.”

                                                                                        – Mirza Gulam Ahmad

            Have you ever questioned yourself, “Do I deserve the title of a Man?” Have you ever tried to know, “What is the point of discrimination between a Man and an Animal?”

            Unfortunately, we have become so materialistic that we have almost lost our spiritual identity. It is true that man has almost lost his own identity. Our approach to life has become more animalistic than humanistic.  We, in the race of money and religion, liquidated the humanity.

            Our approach has become so materialistic and limited that we discriminate man from animal based on mere material or physical attributes, which does not give right definition of a man. We must discriminate a man based on his moral qualities. What I exactly mean to say is, looking human is different and being human is different. The one who just looks as a human in his physical form and does not posses the necessary moral qualities is in no way superior to a lower human [animal]; he is better called a lower human [animal] rather a human. The human who is human both by appearance and by virtue is the real human, the one who perfectly deserve the title of that name. Now, let us look into the different stages of a Man:

            Freud, the father of psychoanalytic theory, proposed that every individual’s personality is the product of a struggle among three interacting forces – the id, the ego, and the superego. The id is the source of strong inborn drives and urges, it does not recognize the difference between good and bad, and it operates on the pleasure principle. Through learning and experience, the ego develops the individual’s capabilities of realistic thinking and ability to deal appropriately with his environment, to overcome the limitations of id; it operates on the reality principle. The superego consists of the moral part of the individual’s psychic structure through internalizing the values of society. It influences the individual to strive for perfection.

            The Holy Quran observes the threefold condition of a man: 1. Nafs-i-ammara: signifies the uncontrollable spirit or the spirit prone to evil. 2. Nafs-i-lawwama: Lawwama literally means one who reproves severally, and the Nafs-i-lawwama or the self-accusing soul, has been so called because it upbraid a man for the doing of an evil deed and strongly hates unrestrained passions and bestial appetites. And 3. Nafs-i-mutmainnah: The third or the last stage in the onward movement of the soul is reached on attaining to the source of all spiritual qualities. At this stage the soul is freed from all weakness and frailties.

            And finally in my words, I divide the human growth into four stages: 1. Animality [Lower/Sub- Human]: in this very stage we are driven by our in borne drives where the Freud’s id is the ruler, here man is under-control not in control 2. Humanity [Human]: in this stage man develops his necessary moral qualities to fit himself for the title. 3. Spirituality [Higher Human]: in this stage human starts inquiring. He struggles for perfection and the ultimate reality. 4. Divinity [supreme Human]: here the man uplifts himself with his supreme virtues to self-actualized soul or the enlightened.

To conclude, I request everybody to “be worthy for the title of a MAN”

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Adversity is better than prosperity

Of course prosperity brings many friends, but adversity filters them, so that you can recognize the real and true friends;

Of course prosperity brings Success, but adversity fails you, so that you can recognize your own strengths and weaknesses;

Of course prosperity brings happiness, but adversity hurts, so that you can recognize the worth of real happiness;

Of course prosperity brings many opportunities, but adversity not, so that you can recognize the worth of good opportunity;

Of course prosperity makes you rich, but adversity poors you, so that you can recognize the worth of real richness.

Now see,

Many people have many friends but among all there are few lucky who recognize real and true friends;

Many people got success in many ways but among all there are few lucky who exampled the real success; 

Many people are happy for many reasons but among all there are few lucky who are enjoying the real happiness;

Many people got many opportunities but among all there are few lucky who utilized the best opportunities;

Many people become rich in many ways but among all there are few lucky who are enjoying the real richness.

Prosperity makes ‘many people’ but adversity makes ‘the few lucky’.

So, remember that

Adversity comes in life not to make you weak but to make you stronger;

Not to make you fearful but to make you courageous;

And

Adversity is not lack of good opportunities but it itself is a special kind of opportunity to learn to face the situation of lack of opportunities. 

Be optimistic forever and never give up your hope.

Learn to make best use of every thing, even the useless.

The Mother

Ever science my childhood

I use to believe that

If there is anything called

 ‘Pure Love’

It is nothing but the love that

A mother has on her child.

Because,

A mother alone makes her child

Smile at the cost of her tears;

A mother alone makes her child

Happy at the cost of her grief;

It is none but,

A mother alone makes her child

Live at the cost of her death.

 

To be precise,

A

 “Mother”

 is physical form of the

“Devine Love”

The Paradox of our Age

In these days of fast foods and slow digestions …

We have more degrees, but less common sense; more knowledge; but less wisdom; more medicine, but less good health; we have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values; we have been working hard to weighten our purses; but unfortunately we let our hearts lighten;

We always have enough time and information to talk about film stars and cricketers etc. ; but we have not enough words of love and time to share with our parents, relative and friends;

We have enough time and patience to watch movies and TV serials; but not enough time and patience to listen to the lectures and few words of wisdom;

We have enough friends to chit chat with, we have enough friends to play with, we have enough friends to share our vulgar thoughts and moments with, we have enough friends to waste our time, money and energy in different ways; but we hardly have enough friends to have profitable and constructive talks; we hardly have enough friends whom we can call them as our true and best friends;

We have enough money to satisfy our own esteem needs but not enough money to serve other people’s basic needs;

We have enough knowledge to understand the most difficult theories of physics and embedded systems; but not enough knowledge to understand the most common human feelings and emotions;

We have enough words to blame each other as the one I am doing now, but not enough words to appreciate one another. 

We have developed enough science and technology to solve all kinds of technical problems, but unfortunately not enough wisdom to solve the basic human problems;

We have enough religions to hate and fight with each other; but unfortunately not enough religions to love each other;

In this material world, we read more, understand less; we eat more, digest less; we earn more, enjoy less; we seek more, share less; we lie more, love less; fight more, forgive less; we act more, think less; neglect more, care less; talk more, listen less; receive more, give less; we preach more, practice less; and   We have learned to make a living, but not a life; here,

We are just adding years to life, but not life to years.

Please, Think about this.

I Thirst – Jesus

“When he was dying on the cross Jesus said: ‘I thirst’. Jesus is thirsting for our love, and this is the thirst of everyone, poor and rich alike. We all thirst for the love of others and the meaning of true love is ‘To give until it hurts’.

                                                                                                        – Mother Teresa

            Do we ‘Thirst’? Do we ‘Thirst’ for love? For the love of others? Do we ‘Thirst’ for the same love that Jesus is thirsting for? The true love? Do we share the true love? Do we give until it hurts us?

            Undoubtedly every one thirsts in this world. But, the most unfortunate thing is that we all do not thirst for the same love that Jesus is thirsting for. We all do not thirst for the true and eternal love. This is the only reason, why Unity of Humanity has lost its colours.

            What for we thirst and the ways and means we choose to fulfill our thirst differs from person to person. Krishnamurthy says, “‘Liberation’ should be the ultimate thirst [Purpose] of every being”. The lord Buddha says, “Nirvana”. Mohammad prophet says, “Salvation”. Mother Teresa says, “True and Pure love of Jesus”. Likewise, so many enlightened ones have defined the ultimate thirst in their own words but if we go to the very ends of their definitions, we arrive at the same place, which I would like to call “The Ultimate-end”. In other words, as Sri Ramakrishna says, “the same water is called ‘Water’ in English, ‘Pani’ in Hindi, ‘Neellu’ in Telugu, and ‘Tanni’ in Tamil”, etc., the same the Ultimate-end is expressed in different ways, with different words, as one beautiful idiom says, “the same old wine in a new bottle”. Now the question arises, “What is that Ultimate-end?

            Different persons have suggested different paths and means to reach the ultimate end. Some suggest the divine experience, some talk about the strict ritual practice, some emphasizes on mere moral practice, some talk about the detachment and renunciation of the world, some talk about seeing God in every being, loving and caring all as Jesus, and some like Charavaka says, “There is neither God nor spirit, neither good nor bad nor their consequences. Fear none. The ultimate end of life is highest pleasure and happiness. It does not matter, how you attain it”, etc. However different, the paths could be; however different, the means could be, they all lead us to the same end.

            The most unfortunate thing is that, pilgrims of these different paths have formed different religions, different societies, different communities, etc. and many of them have been believing that their paths alone are true and leads to the ultimate end, and all others are walking foolishly, in the shadow of maya [illusion] and ignorance. This kind of misbelieve has affected greatly and resulted misleading them from the ultimate end. They have struck in the illusions of superiority and inferiority, they have formed their own boundaries, they have struck in the maya of individuality, they are confined to some man made limitations and these will never let them to reach The Ultimate-End.

            Now the question arises, “What could be the Ultimate-Path, that might keep us away from all kinds of mayas or illusions, that might surely leads to the Ultimate-End?

            Now, I would like to conclude this paper with its essence, that is, “Every one should take initiative to find the answer for these two ultimate questions of life. Every individual should thirst for true love and knowledge of the ultimate reality and ‘one must work for his own salvation’, because mere imitation of past ideas will confined you to some beliefs, and beliefs create boundaries and limitations. When you are confined to man made boundaries and limitations you can never reach The Ultimate-End

HOW TO Fight BAD foot odor..?

More than half of men (and their wives and lady friends) complain about foot odor. Yes, some people have difficulty with fungus or bacteria production, but usually, people just dont wash them well enough, reasoning that “I’m standing in the shower, with soapy water running over my feet, that’s good enough.” Clearly not.
With all the nooks and crannies, you simply dont get rid of odor-causing bacteria – and that is what causes odor. You brush your teeth every day – wash your feet.
Most of you dont need special deodorizers or powders. Here are a few simple steps
.

Instructions

Step 1 – First, scrubem in the shower, tops and bottoms, with a bath brush preferably, a washcloth at least. You can try a deodorant soap, but the trick is to get rid of the odor-causing bacteria.

Step 2 – Spend time on each foot, getting in between toes, hitting every surface.
The rule of thumb for washing bacteria off hands is to wash for 30 seconds, or two verses of “Happy Birthday.” Use three verses for your feet.

Step 3 – Wear cotton, silk or wool socks, as much as possible. Synthetics dont breathe, and promote moisture and bacteria.

Step 4 – Put a dash of baby powder, or talcum, or maybe Gold Bond powder in your shoes when you take them off. The powder absorbs the moisture from the days wear, and from your feet the next time you wear them.

Step 5 – Lastly, if you still get odor – use a simple spray deodorant. Spray deodorant works by inhibiting bacteria growth in your armpits, it will do the same for your feet. The specialized foot deodorants arent usually necessary.


You ll be surprised and delighted how well this works
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Message for Perfectionists

A fellow I know well tried to water ski – once. He tried to get up on the skis three or four times that day. Every time he tried, he wound up tumbling into the water. The three guys on the lake with him all coached. They also laughed at his frustration. “One last time!” he yelled. Then, when he was yanked into the lake again, he swam over to the boat. He was edgy for the remainder of the day. And he has never tried to water ski again in the 40 or more years since.

Perfectionists settle for nothing short of a first-rate performance from themselves. When they come across something that has to be learned through trial and error, they become intolerant of their limitations. They pile up points in the things they can do with ease and skill, while ignoring – and maybe even putting down – the things they do poorly.

People with this bent of personality can get depressed, for nobody is capable of premier performance in everything. They get so tense they sometimes botch even the things they are good at doing. They can’t relax. They remove risks from life by narrowing their interests. They get in safe, comfortable, and boring ruts.

It’s liberating for some people to find out they can make mistakes and still survive! If your new dessert flops, the world won’t end. If you make a mistake at work, you won’t die. If you can’t master calculus or statistics, you can still be a good person. If someone hears you sing off-key, you won’t become an outcast.

Thank God for mistakes. They let you learn. They mean you are still pushing out your horizons. They give you a chance to grow. They let the rest of us know you are still one of us.

If you were perfect, your life would be terribly dull. Nothing to learn. No more challenges. No relationships with peers. The rest of us would probably be too intimidated to talk to you, play tennis with you, or work alongside you. And you certainly wouldn’t need for anyone of our inferior status to care about you.

So don’t be paralyzed by your fears. Whatever it is that you want to do and do well likely will be learned through a process that involves some miscues and false starts. But, if it’s worth doing at all, it’s worth doing poorly at first. Give it a shot.

Take piano lessons. Write a short story. Learn to use a computer. Paint your bedroom. Water ski. Care about someone.